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  • Third Wheel

    Third Wheel

    Relationships aren’t always easy; they require effort, compromise and sacrifices. Throw a mental illness into the mix and it certainly ‘spices’ things up. I will be the first to admit that Ben has affected my past relationships. Some it has…

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  • Addiction

    Addiction

    I touched upon a subject in a previous blog post that I didn’t feel ready to talk about on here thus far. I have recently made the decision to begin opening up more about this situation as I feel sharing…

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  • Driving – TICK!

    Driving – TICK!

    In honour of Mental Health Awareness Week I wanted to write a post as I’ve been slacking again, apologies! Like I’ve said before, I find it so much easier to write when things aren’t totally hunky dory. This blog is…

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  • What Is Happiness?

    What Is Happiness?

    I think about this a lot. So much of our lives are spent trying to find ‘happiness’, when really; its right there. It’s in the cup of tea your husband makes you when you get in from work; it’s in…

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  • Ways To Ease Anxiety

    Ways To Ease Anxiety

    After a recent poll on my Instagram (sarahjcm), I have decided to dedicate a post to some things I use to help calm myself down, or distract myself from Ben’s intruding thoughts. I have also asked some close friends of…

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  • Outlet

    Outlet

    I’ve always said I find it easier to write when things aren’t good. Which I know isn’t a true representation of mental health because it’s not actually all bad. Despite what we’re led to believe. But maybe when I’m good,…

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  • Nostalgia

    Nostalgia

    It’s been a while since I felt like I really wanted to write. And that’s actually been a positive thing, in the sense that I’ve been so well in myself that it kind of took a back seat. This has…

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  • 2017: The Year Of Hope

    2017: The Year Of Hope

    Two thousand and seventeen has been one of the most memorable, challenging but happy years that I’ve experienced since Ben resurfaced. I started this year with an unhealthy mindset, and I’m leaving it with a stronger one. I started this…

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  • To The Person Reading This…

    To The Person Reading This…

    This must feel like the scariest time of your life right now. And trust me, I’ve been there. You feel like no one else understands. No one else feels this way. No one else has been through this. But I…

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  • Background

    Background

    When I was 15 and my mind was introduced to Ben, I had no idea what was happening to me. There was no build up to this new hysteria I was experiencing; no warning; no understanding. Fortunately, this period of…

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  • Split Second 

    Split Second 

    Sometimes it’s hard to remember that not everyone ‘gets’ it.  ‘Gets’ this. ‘Gets’ me.  And that is totally fine; difficult I will admit, but fine. What is not fine is pure ignorance and disregard for someones feelings. Whether this be…

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  • Sh*t Roomie

    Sh*t Roomie

    These last two months have been some of the most steady and settled times I’ve had over the course of my “cohabiting” with Ben. For those that know me personally and have dealt with my anxiety in close proximity will recognise…

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  • Give Me A Bucket Full Of Therapy

    Give Me A Bucket Full Of Therapy

    Proud. Content. Happy.  I have made so many decisions that have shaped the last two weeks into some of the best I’ve had in relation to Ben. I feel so in control.  Last week I had my hypnotherapy consultation; a…

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  • Relief

    Relief

    It still baffles me how much can change in such a short amount of time. You’d think I’d have gotten used to this by now. But no. It still throws me.  However, this time has been vastly different. And that…

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  • Lifeline

    Lifeline

    *GRATITUDE ALERT* I wanted to take this opportunity to get a little bit soppy. I apologise in advance cos its definitely not my strong point I’ve been told! These last few weeks I have felt even more of an overwhelming…

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  • The Power Is In Your Hands

    The Power Is In Your Hands

    Two months feels like a lifetime ago. In two months so much has changed and I have continued to learn more about Ben, myself and those around me. I have felt proud; brave and happy. Three things that are so important…

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  • Ignorance Isn’t Always Bliss

    Ignorance Isn’t Always Bliss

    Social media is a blessing and a curse. It creates the illusion of “perfect” lives and constant happiness; both of which I know not to be true. As lovely as the idea is no one can happy 100% of the…

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  • Nineteen

    Nineteen

    Nowadays, Ben never goes away. Even on the good days he is patiently waiting in the shadows, choosing the perfect time to make an appearance – just when I start to believe he’s taken a well overdue holiday.  In the…

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  • Today

    Today

    Today is not a good day. Why? I don’t know. And these days I find the hardest. When there is a reason for these feelings I find it easier to deal with, regardless of how irrational that reason may be.…

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  • When Ben Comes Out To Play

    When Ben Comes Out To Play

    There are various triggers for Ben; some that are consistent and others that are completely random and unexpected. I can never figure out which ones I find ‘easier’; I like to be prepared for any attack but also knowing that…

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